The sex education you should have gotten.

Men, want to get better at foreplay? Try these five things — and number five might surprise you. Kiss her like you’re not in a hurry. A proper, lingering kiss. Send her a flirty text during the day. Give her something to look forward to. Touch her without expecting it to lead to sex. Sometimes a cuddle is just a cuddle. Ask her what actually feels good to her. Don’t assume — get curious. Take something off her plate without her having to ask. Plan dinner, handle bedtime, or take care of something that’s been sitting on her mental load. Because sometimes the sexiest thing you can do is give her brain a chance to switch off. Ladies, which one would you add? Send this to your man. 🔥

Sometimes the best way to keep the spark alive is to remind your partner they matter outside of sex too. A thoughtful text can create connection, build anticipation, and make someone feel wanted without adding pressure. It doesn’t have to be complicated. Sometimes a simple “I’ve been thinking about you today” goes a long way. Send this to someone who could use a little reminder that affection and desire can start with words. ❤️ Follow @leeannewine for honest, therapist-informed conversations about sex, intimacy, desire, and relationships. #SexTherapist #CouplesConnection #HealthyIntimacy #RelationshipConnection #KeepingTheSparkAlive

🔥 MEN: Want better sex with your woman? Here are 5 things worth understanding about her desire. 1️⃣ Desire may not come first. For many women, desire builds after connection and arousal begin. 2️⃣ Her brain comes into the bedroom. Stress, exhaustion and mental load can make it harder to shift into desire. 3️⃣ Feeling wanted is different from being asked for sex. Flirting, affection, attention and anticipation matter. 4️⃣ Wetness ≠ desire. Lubrication can be affected by hormones, medications, stress and many other factors. 5️⃣ What turns her on can change. Bodies, relationships and preferences evolve. 🔥 The takeaway? Stop assuming you already know. Stay curious about the woman you’re with NOW. Ask her: “What makes you feel most desired?” 💌 SEND this to your partner. 🔖 SAVE it for later. 🔥 FOLLOW @changeyourbrain for better sex, better intimacy, and the sex education you should have gotten. #SexTherapy #SexTherapist #SexEducation #SexualWellness #SexualDesire

You can still love each other deeply and go through seasons where sex happens less often. Stress, exhaustion, mental load, routine, and feeling less connected outside the bedroom can all affect desire. Less sex doesn’t automatically mean less love. Sometimes it simply means life has gotten in the way — and the relationship needs a little more attention, connection, and curiosity. Follow @leeannewine for honest, therapist-informed conversations about sex, intimacy, desire, and relationships. #SexTherapist #CouplesConnection #IntimacyMatters #LowDesire #HealthyRelationships

Sometimes when one partner says they want more sex, what they’re really saying is: “I miss feeling wanted by you.” ❤️ But intimacy shouldn’t come from obligation, pressure, or trying to keep your partner happy. The goal isn’t just more sex. It’s creating the kind of connection where both people feel safe, desired, understood, and able to enjoy being together. That might mean talking more openly about what turns each of you on, taking pressure off physical affection, rebuilding flirtation, or getting curious about what helps desire show up for each of you. Because great intimacy isn’t about one person getting their needs met. It’s about finding your way back to each other. 💌 SEND this to your partner if this says something you’ve been trying to put into words. 🔥 FOLLOW @leeannewine for honest conversations about sex, desire, intimacy, and the sex education you should have gotten. #SexTherapy #CouplesIntimacy #MismatchedDesire #RelationshipAdvice #IntimacyMatters

You can love your partner deeply and still go through seasons where your desire feels low. Stress, exhaustion, hormones, disconnection, past experiences, and everyday life can all affect libido — and none of that automatically means something is wrong with your relationship. Sometimes the better question isn’t, “What’s wrong with me?” It’s: “What might my body and relationship need right now?” Follow @leeannewine for honest, therapist-informed conversations about sex, desire, intimacy, and relationships.

🔥 Your partner is amazing… so why don’t you want sex with them? They’re loving. Supportive. A great partner. You’re still attracted to them. So when your desire disappears, it’s easy to turn the blame inward: “What’s wrong with ME?” But love and attraction are only part of the desire equation. Stress. Exhaustion. Mental load. Pressure. Routine. How you feel in your own body. How connected you feel to yourself. They can all matter. ❤️ You can deeply love your partner AND still struggle with desire. Maybe the better question isn’t: “Why don’t I want my partner?” It’s: “What does my desire need that it isn’t getting right now?” That’s a very different conversation. 💌 SEND this to your partner if you’ve struggled to explain that loving them and wanting sex aren’t always the same thing. 🔖 SAVE this if you needed the reminder. 🔥 FOLLOW @leeannewine if you want to understand what’s REALLY happening with sex, desire and intimacy in long-term relationships. \#SexualDesire #LongTermRelationships #Intimacy #SexTherapy #SexTherapist

🔥 Maybe you didn’t lose your sexual side. Maybe you’ve just been too busy being everything to everyone else. The responsible one. The caregiver. The partner. The parent. The one who keeps everything moving. And somewhere along the way, you stopped having much space to notice what YOU want. That doesn’t mean desire is gone. Maybe it’s time to stop asking: “What’s wrong with me?” And start asking: ❤️ “What do I need to feel like myself again?” 💌 SEND this to a woman who needs to hear it. 🔖 SAVE this if it hit a little too close to home. 🔥 FOLLOW @leeannewine if you want to understand your desire, reconnect with yourself, and get the sex education you should have gotten. #SexualDesire #WomensSexualHealth #SexTherapy #SexTherapist #SexEducation

🔥 Being the higher-desire partner isn’t always about wanting MORE sex. Sometimes it’s about wanting to feel wanted too. When you’re always the one initiating, eventually you may start wondering: “If I stopped asking… would they ever choose me?” And that can hurt. Because after enough rejection, it may stop feeling like they’re saying no to sex… and start feeling like they’re saying no to you. ❤️ No one should feel obligated to have sex they don’t want. But the higher-desire partner’s feelings matter too. Sometimes what they’re really craving isn’t more sex. It’s the experience of being desired. 💌 SEND this to your partner if it puts words to something you’ve struggled to explain. 🔖 SAVE it if you needed this reminder. 🔥 FOLLOW @leeannewine if you want to understand BOTH sides of what’s really happening in the bedroom. #SexTherapy #SexTherapist #SexualDesire #MismatchedDesire #Intimacy