The sex education you should have gotten.

🔥 YOUR SEXUAL FANTASIES MIGHT SURPRISE YOU! 😳 Ever fantasized about being a completely different version of yourself? Here are 5 examples of how fantasies can reflect different sides of you: 1️⃣ Always in control? Maybe giving up control turns you on. 2️⃣ Always taking care of others? Maybe you fantasize about being the centre of attention. 3️⃣ Shy and reserved? Maybe your fantasies bring out your wild side. 4️⃣ Always following the rules? Maybe breaking a few feels exciting. 5️⃣ Happy with your everyday life? You can STILL enjoy imagining being someone completely different! ❤️ Sometimes what turns you on isn’t about WHAT you’re doing. It’s about WHO you get to BE. And remember, having a fantasy doesn’t mean you actually want to act on it! 💌 SEND this to your partner and ask: “Is there a side of yourself you’d love to explore with me? 😉” 💬 Which one surprised you the most? 🔥 FOLLOW @leeannewine for the sex education you should have gotten. #SexTherapy #SexualFantasies #SexualWellness #CouplesIntimacy #SexEducation

🔥 IS WATCHING PORN CHEATING? 😳 For some couples, porn is harmless entertainment. For others, it can feel like betrayal. As a sex therapist, here are 5 conversations every couple should have about porn: 1️⃣ Is porn okay in YOUR relationship? Don’t assume you share the same boundaries. 2️⃣ Is it being kept secret? There’s a difference between privacy and secrecy. 3️⃣ Is it changing your expectations of sex? Remember, porn is entertainment, NOT sex education. 4️⃣ Is it affecting your sex life together? Is it creating distance or interfering with intimacy? 5️⃣ What does porn actually MEAN to each of you? One partner might see it as harmless fun, while the other experiences it as betrayal. ❤️ The problem isn’t always the porn. Sometimes it’s the conversation you’re NOT having about it. 💌 SEND this to your partner and ask: “Are we actually on the same page about porn?” 💬 What do YOU think? Is watching porn cheating, or does it depend on the relationship? 🔥 FOLLOW @leeannewine for the sex education you should have gotten. #SexTherapy #PornInRelationships #RelationshipBoundaries #CouplesIntimacy #SexEducation

🔥 How much sex is TOO LITTLE in a marriage? Once a week? Once a month? A few times a year? Fewer than 10 times a year is a commonly cited definition of a sexless marriage. BUT HERE’S THE THING… ❤️ Frequency doesn’t automatically equal satisfaction. Some couples rarely have sex and feel completely fulfilled. Others have sex regularly and still feel unwanted, disconnected, or sexually frustrated. There is NO magic number that determines whether your sex life is healthy. The real question is: Are BOTH partners happy with their intimate connection? And if the answer is no, that’s a conversation worth having. ❤️ 💌 SEND this to your partner with one simple question: “Forget what’s normal for everyone else. What would a satisfying sex life look like for US?” Because sometimes one question can open up a conversation you’ve both been avoiding. 💬 COUPLES: Do you think sexual frequency matters, or is satisfaction more important? 🔥 FOLLOW @leeannewine for the sex education you should have gotten. #SexlessMarriage #SexTherapy #CouplesIntimacy #SexualWellness #RelationshipAdvice

Good sex usually isn’t about waiting for the “perfect moment.” Desire often grows from the little things: talking honestly, flirting outside the bedroom, making time for intimacy, staying physically affectionate, and remaining curious about each other. The goal isn’t to force spontaneity. It’s to create the conditions where connection and desire have room to grow. Follow @leeannewine for honest, therapist-informed conversations about sex, intimacy, desire, and relationships. #SexTherapist #CouplesConnection #IntimacyMatters #SexualWellness #HealthyRelationships

❤️ You can be having sex with your partner… and still feel unwanted. Because sometimes it’s not just about having sex. It’s about feeling desired. Feeling like your partner is genuinely excited to be intimate with YOU. And when sex starts feeling like something your partner is doing for you rather than something you’re enjoying together, it can feel surprisingly lonely. ❤️ There’s a difference between feeling sexually accommodated and feeling sexually desired. And BOTH partners deserve intimacy that feels wanted, pleasurable, and free from obligation. 💌 SEND this to your partner and ask: “Do we both feel desired in our relationship?” 🔥 FOLLOW @leeannewine for BOTH sides of what’s really happening in the bedroom. #SexTherapy #SexualDesire #CouplesIntimacy #Marriage #RelationshipAdvice

🔥 Your partner masturbates… but doesn’t seem interested in having sex with you? It’s easy to take that personally. You might wonder if they’re still attracted to you, if you’re doing something wrong, or if solo pleasure has somehow replaced you. But here’s something I wish more couples understood… ❤️ Wanting an orgasm and wanting partnered sex aren’t always the same thing. Sometimes masturbation is about convenience, relaxation, familiarity, or simply wanting pleasure without expectations. And it doesn’t automatically mean your partner doesn’t desire you. But that doesn’t mean your feelings about it don’t matter either. The answer isn’t shame, blame, or assumptions. It’s understanding what sex and masturbation mean to BOTH of you. 💌 SEND this to your partner and ask: “Can we talk about this without taking it personally?” 🔥 FOLLOW @leeannewine for the bedroom truths nobody talks about and the sex education you should have gotten. #SexTherapy #Masturbation #CouplesIntimacy #SexualDesire #RelationshipAdvice

You can miss feeling desired and still hate feeling pressured. Those two things can exist at the same time. Wanting more affection, flirting, attention, reassurance, or physical closeness doesn’t mean every touch needs to become an invitation for sex. In fact, when affection feels safer and less loaded with expectation, it can create much more room for genuine desire to show up. Send this to your partner if you’ve ever struggled to explain the difference between wanting to feel wanted and wanting sex. Follow @leeannewine for honest, therapist-informed conversations about sex, intimacy, desire, and relationships. #SexTherapist #CouplesConnection #HealthyIntimacy #ResponsiveDesire #RelationshipCommunication

🔥 When sex starts feeling like a negotiation, nobody really wins. One partner feels rejected. The other feels pressured. And eventually, even talking about sex becomes something you both avoid. But silence doesn’t necessarily protect your relationship. Sometimes it creates even more distance. ❤️ The answer isn’t more pressure. It’s making intimacy feel safe to talk about again. Sometimes the most important conversation starts with five simple words: “I miss this part of us.” 💌 SEND this to your partner if you’ve been struggling to find the words. 🔥 FOLLOW @leeannewine for BOTH sides of what’s really happening in the bedroom. #SexTherapy #CouplesIntimacy #SexualDesire #Marriage #RelationshipAdvice

❤️ Some seasons of marriage just don’t have much sex. And that’s okay. Babies. Careers. Stress. Hormones. Exhaustion. Life. Sometimes you’re simply doing your best to get through it all together. But here’s something worth remembering… A temporary season can quietly become your new normal if you stop making space for intimacy. That doesn’t mean forcing sex or trying to recreate the relationship you had ten years ago. It means finding new ways to flirt, connect, touch, and enjoy each other in the life you have NOW. ❤️ You don’t need to go backwards to find your spark again. 💌 SEND this to your partner and ask: “Is it time we made a little more room for us?” 🔥 FOLLOW @leeannewine for the bedroom truths couples need to be talking about. #SexTherapy #Marriage #CouplesIntimacy #SexualDesire #LongTermRelationships